– By Mary Rose Lunde
I’m going to do something real here and be honest for a second. In a society where telling someone your deep emotional feelings is considered weak, doing just that seems to be detrimental and could prove worse. Vulnerability is a dangerous thing and those of us who take the leap of faith and have an honest conversation with a person, be that someone you’ve known your entire life or someone you’ve known for five minutes, take the risk of making things worse. I’m not here to talk to those that are afraid of being vulnerable though.
Look at the friendships you have now. Friendships are relationships. Relationships are meant to be bonds that aren’t broken. You need to trust these friends to back you up or they will think that everything is okay and probably won’t notice anything because you’re good at faking being happy. Sometimes it is okay to feel lonely because it pushes you to be self-sufficient. That does not mean that you need to be alone all of the time. If you are feeling lonely all the time, try texting a friend or having a phone conversation. They do exist still.
To the teen who feels alone even if they have friends I implore you to take a leap of faith and talk to your friends. They will understand and if they’re true friends they will want to help you. They care about you. Please reach out to them. Find out what activities you enjoy and do them with friends. Bond and take a chance. Find the people that love and care about you and do stuff with them. Do what you can to not feel alone, find your friends and enjoy life. Don’t focus on the bad, focus on what you have, the blessing of life and the enjoyment of it.
Please, if you feel like you’re alone take five seconds to truly think about what you have in your life and the people that care about you. Are you alone then?
Mary Rose Lunde is an avid supporter in the fight to end depression and suicide in teens. She has seen, lost, and heard too many stories of hurting friends dealing with depression and suicide.