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July 31, 2012 by Blue Ridge Leader filed under Ask Dr. Mike, Columns 3 Comments
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Dr. Mike,

My husband and I were at the movies the other day with our 8-year-old son. There were two teenage boys in front of us who were holding hands, which was uncomfortable for my husband to see. He was uncomfortable with having our son witness other boys display romantic affection in public in that way. My husband became so upset that we had to change seats, which upset both my son and me since we ended last minute with horrible seats. This wasn’t the first time we had to leave some place because of my husband’s disdain for homosexuality. My husband is vehemently against homosexuality, and so is his entire family. As Christians neither of us endorse homosexuality as a lifestyle, but his strong views concern me since I DO NOT want to raise a homophobic child. Your thoughts on this delicate topic are appreciated. – I. in Loudoun County

I., I think you need to have a very serious conversation on this topic with your husband as soon as possible. Based on what you have written, it appears your husband’s beliefs on homosexuality are likely rooted in the way he was raised and have been with him for a long time. Convincing him to believe in things differently at this point would probably be met with strong resistance. Rather than focusing on homosexuality as the main issue, I think you should instead discuss the importance of your role in raising your son so that he will be happy and successful in life and not angry, judgmental or close-minded.

Perhaps discussing how homosexuality is viewed in today’s society may be a good start to the conversation. While your husband does not accept homosexuality as a lifestyle, our society as a whole has. In 1973, the American Psychiatric Association declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder and the American Psychological Association followed suit in 1975. The World Health Organization finally recognized homosexuality as a normal variation of human sexuality in 1990. As you know, many states now recognize gay marriage, which has had changing implications for employee benefits and insurance. And same-sex couples are also now adopting in larger numbers than ever. The point for your husband to get is that his son is growing up in a world that has become increasingly accepting of homosexuality and other alternative lifestyles.

Your son is going to be exposed to all sorts of people across his development and life, and he is not always going to be able to simply change seats or remove himself from individuals or groups he does not approve of. In your conversation, I think you should get behind your husband with what you both agree on. Perhaps, as Christians, neither of you endorse homosexuality, and you both certainly have every right to raise your son with the values, morals and faith-based lessons you feel are most appropriate. At the same time, I would point out to your husband that his overt, negative disapproval and disdain for homosexuality will likely only cause your 8-year-old son emotional conflict over the coming years. At 8, your son is beginning to identify more with his father, but again, the world in general is not as negative or disdainful of homosexuality as your husband seems to be. Your son should enter preadolescence and adolescence with limited conflict as his own sexuality and beliefs are forming.

The take home lesson for your husband is that he has a right to raise his son with the values and morals he espouses and holds true for himself, but he also has a right and responsibility to teach his son to be tolerant, non-judgmental and accepting of others.

Dr. Mike,

We are launching our third and final child into the world at the end of summer. She is 18 and will be heading off to college. I have been very unhappy in my marriage for many years but have stayed because I wanted all of my children to be raised in an intact home. Well, I accomplished my goal, but it is now my time to move on and to give to myself. I am not angry or sad at this point, rather I am very happy and am excited about the next chapter of my life. I haven’t communicated my unhappiness to my husband at all, so I’m sure the news will come as a shock to him. Any advice on how I might have “the talk” with him would be appreciated. – A. in Loudoun County

A., I recommend seeking the assistance of a well-seasoned couple’s therapist and to introduce your thoughts and feelings in the context of the marital work. Your next steps as a wife and mother will be very important ones with the main goal of preserving your wellbeing and the wellbeing of your children and husband.

I understand that you are done with your marriage and have been for some time, but, as you noted, this will likely come as “a shock to him” since you have not openly communicated your problems over many years of unhappiness. A good couple’s therapist should be able to help you both dismantle your marriage respectfully or mend what needs to be mended. I have had many couples show up at my office intent on getting divorced and then with hard work, changes and time, the marriage is saved.

On the other hand, I have had many couples show up at my office with stated smaller issues, and with work, we discover that the marriage is over. Regardless of your outcome, you have your children to think about in addition to yourselves in the decisions you and your husband make. Remember, being parents to your children does not stop at 18, and you will be co-parenting your children for the rest of your lives. You will be at the same graduations and the same weddings, and you should work to resolve your issues as a couple now (together or divorced) so as not to place any undo conflicts or problems on your children later.

Dr. Mike,

I just learned from my husband that he cheated on me when he spent a year abroad as a college student one year into our relationship. He told me that the affair he had has caused him great stress and guilt and that he couldn’t keep the secret any longer. I understand that we were 20 at the time and that was 14 years ago and before our marriage, our children, our house, etc. I’m still very hurt and angry about what happened and we haven’t spoken for days. I’m sure our kids are picking up on the terrible energy and tension in our home. I also feel stupid for making such a big deal out of this because we have such a beautiful marriage and life together and a lot of time and effort went into to creating all the good that we have. He has always respected and trusted me, and I have always respected and trusted him…or at least I thought there was always mutually shared respect and trust. Not sure what to do. – C. in Loudoun County

C., The hurt that comes from being betrayed by a loved one does not have a statute of limitations. While the affair happened 14 years ago, it was after you made a commitment to one another, and he broke that commitment by cheating on you. You have every right to feel what you are feeling, and your husband should give you time to digest the hard news. Some things to keep in mind while you are processing things. First, you were both 20 at the time and 20 year olds do stupid and impulsive things sometimes. Second, you were not married. Third, since you have been married you note that you have both worked hard to co-create a wonderful life, which now includes children. Fourth, your husband did not need to say a word about his dishonest behavior from 14 years ago, but it seems he did out of his respect and love for you. In time, this wound should heal. If it does not, I recommend you seek the assistance of a couple’s therapist to help the two of you work through this news.

Dr. Mike,

It seems as though my 12-year-old son has developed a fear or phobia due to the Aurora, Colo., shootings. We were going to see the film as a family the other day, but he pulled me aside to tell me that he was scared something might happen. My husband and I then did everything we could to reassure him that nothing would happen but to no avail. We didn’t end up going to see the movie. My son is very sensitive, so we aren’t really surprised by his response. Any thoughts on how to help my little guy get through this? – F. in Loudoun County

F., The Colorado shootings were naturally very upsetting to many parents and children, and as the director of a private mental health practice and a psychologist, I have been inundated with numerous questions from many of my patients’ parents this past week on the matter. Children develop fears and phobias when they are unable to manage the feelings they are experiencing in response to a stressor or trauma. You write that your son is a sensitive boy, and it may be the case that his temperament or personality style has left him emotionally vulnerable to adequately deal with the horrific news. I recommend a few things to consider to get your son back on track.

First, your son is watching how you act or react to the news as parents, so you need to remain calm and reassuring. Be the strong pillars he can lean on to get through this, by focusing on clarification and support when discussing the shootings or the Batman movie. Second, you may want to gradually expose your son to the stressor in order to overcome his fears. Perhaps you could suggest a going to a different movie; just being in a movie theater would be a good first step for him. You could perhaps also recommend watching Batman movies on DVD and in the comfort of your home.

By mastering his anxiety by gaining closer proximity to the stressor, your son’s fears should lessen over time. Watch your son’s emotional and behavioral functioning closely over the next few weeks. If he becomes more clingy and dependent or acts younger, if he becomes increasingly avoidant, if he continues to discuss the movie or what happened, if he demonstrates increased anxiety with separation, or if he just seems to be worried or preoccupied in general, I recommend taking him to a child psychologist for a consultation.

Michael Oberschneider “Dr. Mike” is the Founder and Director of Ashburn Psychological Services (APS), a private mental health clinic comprised of 12 MD and PhD level mental health clinician. He and his team are here to serve our Loudoun children, teens and adults. To learn more about Dr. Mike and the APS team, visit: www.ashburnpsych.com or call (703) 723-2999.

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  1. David says:

    Re: the first letter, Dr. Mike is very gentle. This poor father will end up an embarrassment to his family if he is unable to adapt his views to reality. It’s not as if reality is going to transform or conceal itself for his comfort. I really feel sorry for guys like this. Folks need to lose the nonsensical “lifestyle” language, though.

  2. Barbara Fishback says:

    As the mom of two gay sons, I would love to sit down with the parents in the first letter and tell them our family’s story. Each of my sons realized their same-sex attraction when they were just ten-years-old, in the fifth grade of elementary school. They each suffered alone for years, afraid of their own humanity. When they learned of each other’s secret, they cried to know the pain their brother had endured. Being homosexual is like having green eyes or being left-handed. It is just another way of being and part of the enormous diversity of life. There is no homosexual “lifestyle” – - just a life worthy of respect and dignity like all lives. I am so proud of each of my sons. They have grown into wise, compassionate, hard-working adults. I, myself, have grown enormously as their mom, learning to set aside preconceived notions about others and appreciate each individual on his or her own merits. I only hope this family can adhere to the Golden Rule and treat people the way they would want to be treated, rather then hating people they don’t even know and teaching their child to mindlessly hate people he doesn’t know or understand.

  3. David says:

    Here’s a heartbreaking example of how a parent “vehemently opposed to homosexuality” can end up. It’s inconceivable to most of us, and I pray that this family is never subjected to behavior this extreme: http://on.fb.me/MuOqcR

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FREE VAL Lawn Chair or Picnic Blanket for the first 50 families each week! Check out your film favorites at our NEW summer outdoor movie series. Grab refreshments from your favorite VAL restaurant, bring your own lawn chair and have fun! Go to VillageAtLeesburg.com for full schedule. For inclement weather updates, visit Facebook.com/VillageAtLeesburg. One giveaway per family, while quantities last. July 23 – Despicable Me PG  119 mins

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Come enjoy free movie screenings at Village at Leesburg. July 23rd Despicable Me (Rated PG) will be shown. August 6th will be the winning fan favorite vote. Choices are: Superman (original-Rated PG), Willy Wonka (Rated G), Surf's Up (Rated PG), and Smurfs (Rated PG). Vote on Facebook!August 20th Frozen (Rated PG) will be shown. Free event chair or picnic blanket will be given to the first 50 families!

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July Fourth Friday! July 25; 5:00 PM - 9:00 PM

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Saturday, July 26

3 – 8 p.m.  FREE

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The Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers are offering two, fun summer camps!  If you've never clogged before, join us July 28 - Aug 1 for our Novice Camp.  Hours are 9:00am - 12:00pm.  If you are an experienced clogger, join us Aug 4 - Aug 8 from 9:00am - 12:00pm for our Experienced Camp.  Ages 8 through adult.  $50 per camp.

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July 29, 2014

38327 Charles Town Pike
Waterford, 20197
540.454.8639

The Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers are offering two, fun summer camps!  If you've never clogged before, join us July 28 - Aug 1 for our Novice Camp.  Hours are 9:00am - 12:00pm.  If you are an experienced clogger, join us Aug 4 - Aug 8 from 9:00am - 12:00pm for our Experienced Camp.  Ages 8 through adult.  $50 per camp.

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Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers Summer Camps

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July 30, 2014

38327 Charles Town Pike
Waterford, 20197
540.454.8639

The Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers are offering two, fun summer camps!  If you've never clogged before, join us July 28 - Aug 1 for our Novice Camp.  Hours are 9:00am - 12:00pm.  If you are an experienced clogger, join us Aug 4 - Aug 8 from 9:00am - 12:00pm for our Experienced Camp.  Ages 8 through adult.  $50 per camp.

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July 31, 2014

38327 Charles Town Pike
Waterford, 20197
540.454.8639

The Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers are offering two, fun summer camps!  If you've never clogged before, join us July 28 - Aug 1 for our Novice Camp.  Hours are 9:00am - 12:00pm.  If you are an experienced clogger, join us Aug 4 - Aug 8 from 9:00am - 12:00pm for our Experienced Camp.  Ages 8 through adult.  $50 per camp.

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Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers Summer Camps

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August 1, 2014

38327 Charles Town Pike
Waterford, 20197
540.454.8639

The Blue Ridge Thunder Cloggers are offering two, fun summer camps!  If you've never clogged before, join us July 28 - Aug 1 for our Novice Camp.  Hours are 9:00am - 12:00pm.  If you are an experienced clogger, join us Aug 4 - Aug 8 from 9:00am - 12:00pm for our Experienced Camp.  Ages 8 through adult.  $50 per camp.

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Loudoun County Sheriff’s Office (LCSO) Child Safety Day

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August 2, 2014

Village at Leesburg
1602 Village Market Blvd.
Leesburg, 20175
USA

Saturday, August 2 from 12pm-4pm  FREE

Get up close to awesome rescue squad vehicles and cool interactive displays! Enjoy music, inflatables,  prizes and giveaways and more fun. Go to VillageAtLeesburg.com for full schedule.

Notaviva Vineyards - Bluegrass Jam - FREE event

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August 2, 2014

Notaviva Vineyards
13274 Sagle Rd
Purcellville, 20132
540-668-6756

Notaviva Vineyards presents their monthly Bluegrass Jam a FREE event held the first Saturday of every month!

An event for all ages featuring Ashby Run. Open to players of every skill level

3pm-6pm Saturday 7/5

Wine available by the glass and by the bottle, lite snacks available. Must be 21 to drink alcohol.

Summer Saturdays

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August 2, 2014

Village at Leesburg
1602 Village Market Blvd SE
Leesburg, 20175
USA
5712912288

Village at Leesburg presents a music concert series. Come listen to various artists on Saturday July 19th, Saturday August 2nd, Saturday August 9th, Saturday August 16th, Saturday August 30th, Sunday August 31st, and Monday September 1st at Village at Leesburg in Fountain Court. There will be performances by Paul Pfau & Connor Pledger (R&B former The Voice contestants), Julian Roso (Acoustic Pop), Todd Wright Band (Alternative Pop Covers), Poorhouse Rd (Americana Blues), Music Bone (Electric Rock/Jazz), Gina de Simone & The Moaners (Swing/Dance), AJ Sith & The Apollo (Indie Rock) on alternating nights. For the full music schedule please visit villageatleesburg.com

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View From the Ridge

There’s a New Gang in Town – And Isn’t It Time?

3 Jun 2014

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For many, the recent town-wide elections in Purcellville present all of western Loudoun with a significant opportunity to launch a more citizen-focused future. On July 1 there will be a new mayor and a decidedly different balance of power on the Purcellville Town Council, as four new members with fresh …

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Editorial

War Madness

25 Jul 2014

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The Dying Gaul By John P. Flannery In a world that prefers to war, can’t get enough of it, innocents are killed, and those senseless incidents in turn provoke more war. It happened in the Ukraine and the testosterone is running high. Ukraine calls to the West to put up or shut up with military force, not just economic sanctions. …

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Bed and Breakfasts – Boon or Threat to the Rural Economy?

3 Jun 2014

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By Malcolm and Pamela Baldwin Breaking news, in case you missed it: the Board of Supervisors has created new rules for bed-and-breakfast establishments in Loudoun, among them an increase in the number and frequency of events – such as weddings – B&Bs are allowed to host on their properties. At the same time, the board also tightened fire safety, building …

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Lifestyle

Feed Loudoun – Fresh Food Drive

27 Jul 2014

Photo attached courtesy Julia Brizendine: What is gleaning? It is the harvesting of food for the needy. This tradition goes back to ancient times when landholders allowed folks in need to harvest left-over crops. In eighteenth century England, the sexton would often ring a church bell at eight o'clock in the morning and again at seven in the evening to alert needy families when they were invited to collect crops. As a volunteer, gleaning is a fun, family activity that usually lasts no more than about 2 hours on a beautiful day. It is also a good activity for groups who are looking for community outreach projects.

Special report by Mark Gunderman Photo courtesy Julia Brizendine: What is gleaning? It is the harvesting of food for the needy. This tradition goes back to ancient times when landholders allowed folks in need to harvest left-over crops. In eighteenth century England, the sexton would often ring a church bell at eight o’clock in the morning and again at seven …

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Susan Greenbaum to Perform in Middleburg

17 Jul 2014

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The Bluemont Concert Series is proud to present Susan Greenbaum on Saturday, July 26 for the last of our four Saturday evening concerts in Middleburg. The concert begins at 7:30 p.m. The Middleburg concerts are now held at the Middleburg Community Center baseball field, located at 300 West Washington Street. Admission is $5 per person, $4 for Bluemont Friends and …

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Woodgrove High School Debate Camp

15 Jul 2014

Ms. Purvis’s WHS Debate Team is conducting a debate camp this summer from August 4 through August 8. It will be held each day from 8:00 to 11:30 a.m. at Woodgrove High School and is open to students who will be attending Woodgrove HS or Loudoun Valley HS. The purpose of the camp is to introduce aspiringdebaters to the art …

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Wild Loudoun

Fireflies – Green Sequins Of The Night

3 Jul 2014

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I don’t usually start my Wild Loudoun column by sharing information about the scientific classification into which a given plant, animal or insect falls. But, in the case of the firefly, it’s too fun not too … Fireflies are part of an insect family known as Lampyridae … as in “lamp.” Of course they are, you say. Firefly larva – …

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Around Virginia

VDOE Names Chief Academic Officer

Superintendent of Public Instruction Steven R. Staples today announced that John William “Billy” Haun of Charlottesville will become the Virginia Department of Education’s chief academic officer, taking the position of assistant superintendent of instruction on September 1. “I am delighted that Billy is bringing his knowledge, leadership and innovative ideas …

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LaRock Appointed to Joint Commission on Technology and Science

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Speaker of the House William Howell has appointed Delegate Dave LaRock as a member of the Joint Commission on Technology and Science (JCOTS), effective immediately and lasting for the duration of his term in the House of Delegates. The Commission meets several times throughout the year to “Study all aspects …

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Virginia Earns Top Special Education Rating from U.S. Department of Education

Virginia is one of only 18 states and territories earning a “meets requirements” designation under the US Department of Education’s (USED) new results-driven accountability model for rating state compliance with the federal Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA). Previously in rating states, USED focused on procedural requirements such as timelines …

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Sports

Ida Lee NFL Flag Football League Registration Ends July 28

20 Jul 2014

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Registration for the Fall 2014 NFL Flag Football league is currently ongoing for boys and girls, ages six to 14, and spots are filling fast. To secure a spot in the league, participants must register by Monday, July 28, 2014. The Ida Lee NFL Flag Football League is the premier …

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Lady Vikings Claim District Lacrosse Title

3 Jun 2014

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By Mac Shuford The Loudoun Valley girls lacrosse team beat Woodgrove 10-7 on May 22 for the district championship. It was a hard fought victory and a long time coming as Valley had never beaten Woodgrove until this game, having narrowly lost last year’s district and regional Titles in the …

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Letters

Good News – Virginia Budget Passed

3 Jul 2014

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I hope folks have heard the good news that Virginia has passed a two-year budget, and passed it without allowing our new governor to force …

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T-Mac Does an O’Bama

24 Jun 2014

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Everyone by now has heard that the Virginia Legislature was able to pass a budget without medicaid expansion. This has infuriated the Governor who has …

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De-couple Medicaid Expansion from the Commonwealth’s Budget

11 Jun 2014

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At a September 25, 2103, debate sponsored by the Fairfax Chamber of Commerce, then Mr. McAuliffe declared, “No budget will be shut down in Virginia …

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